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Grief Counseling

Grief therapy in San Antonio and online anywhere in Texas

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Life is just not the same anymore, and you don’t know how to move forward

Is this what your life looks like?

It is difficult to sleep, and in the mornings, you struggle to get out of bed. During the days, you are often tired and have lost your appetite. Mostly, your days feel sad and empty. It is difficult for you to feel emotions, and you are numb. Sometimes, it feels unreal. You are doubting the meaning of it all.

Occasionally, your sadness shows up as anger, guilt, or self-blame. Nobody in your environment understands how deeply your loss has affected you, and you feel isolated and disconnected. You wonder what the future holds or if you want to experience it. You doubt your beliefs and wonder what life and death are about.

You feel a heaviness that won't go away, and your mind is stuck on what you've lost. It's hard to focus or find happiness. You feel alone, even around loved ones, and get irritated easily, snapping at others without meaning to. Sleep is tough and never feels restful.

At work, you can't concentrate and are making more mistakes. You have pulled away from people you care about or even gotten angry at them. You have stopped taking care of yourself, by skipping meals or not exercising.

Things you used to enjoy don't matter anymore, and every day, you struggle to keep going despite the pain you feel deep inside. Forming new relationships appears impossible, and you don’t really know if you want to. You don’t even like to leave the house.

What life might look like

Just imagine getting out of bed rested and ready for the day. You take care of yourself, and after a nice breakfast, you are ready for what lies ahead and are looking forward to the company of others. You treasure your memories and can freely share them with others. You are ready to make new connections and build meaningful relationships.

Here’s what we’ll do together.

How therapy can help heal your grief

Together, we will work on accepting the reality of your loss and understanding how this grief can be part of your life without consuming you. We will process the pain of your grief and the related emotions, such as guilt, anger, and sadness. We will work on ways to preserve and treasure your memories. We will create your path toward a renewed sense of purpose.

If your loss occurred a year or more prior to you contacting me—in some cases less—we can directly and effectively process your grief using IADC. We can determine the best approach for you once we have started our work together.

What we will work toward:

Imagine a life where you

  • are hopeful again

  • find a new sense of peace

  • walk through life with an open heart

  • take care of yourself

  • connect with others

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Let’s take that weight off your heart.
Together.

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What is IADC?

IADC is a specialized protocol that uses bilateral stimulation, like EMDR, to encourage dual attention and remove barriers that keep us from processing our grief. It helps to detach our heavy emotions from our memories of the one we lost. It is called IADC (Induced After-Death Communication) because a large percentage of clients going through the process experience either feelings of the presence of the deceased one, visions, or other perceptions. Sometimes, those come later in dreams. Sometimes, they occur in the session. However, for successful grief processing, it is not necessary to experience any kind of After-Death Communication (ADC).

FAQs

Frequently asked questions

  • Yes, some level of grieving is normal. It is also normal for it to be more intense at the beginning. Then again, delayed grieving is also very common. You benefit from grief therapy if your grief is impacting your life: work, social activities, overall well-being, or hope.

  • Yes. When we take care of people who have a terminal illness, the grief process can start early. Once they die, we might feel an emptiness but not the same type of grief we expected. That is OK. There is no fixed formula for grief.

  • Yes. We call that “disenfranchised grief.” That is unfortunately not uncommon. Even if those closest to the person who died have their own grief process, they might not include you in it, and you could feel alone with your grief.

  • This is another form of “disenfranchised grief.” With me, you have a safe space to process your emotions.

  • Absolutely! Your grief is valid and understandable. We have very close bonds with our animal friends and can be devastated when we lose them.

  • Yes, it is for you. This often occurs when the loss has occurred a long time ago, but you never processed it fully. If you are able to bring up those feelings of grief and feel them, we can work through them using IADC and lift that weight off your heart.

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